Friday, September 2, 2011


So I decided a while back to kinda plan my funeral. Not actually go to a funeral home, pick out a casket and get a headstone but rather do some planning for things I really feel are important for me to have done, read or sang when I die. Somehow its comforting to know I have these few key elements taken care of. Below is a poem I sent out. One of my best friends Shannon has offered herself up to read it at a podium, in the church at my funeral. I think this will set the tone for how I'm hoping people will handle my death moving forward. No I'm not planning ON KICKING THE BUCKET ANYTIME SOON lol but those who know me well know I'm a planner. It makes me feel at ease when I have a plan. Some may think its strange or morbid but if you look at it from my point of view I will kinda know what my funeral will be like even thought I'm technically not there to see it and that is comforting to me. Death inst the end, its just the beginning of a new life in a different dimension.


To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.

Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.

Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."

It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.

As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man.

God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.

And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.

When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years

because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.

I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.

But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.

There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;

but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.

If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,

then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.

So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,

just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.

And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,

remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.

Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)

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